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This book review of Share explores the role food plays in fostering connection through creativity.
That a young seminarian whose weekly meal planning involves calculating how many meals of oatmeal it will take to justify the purchase of a new book should be reviewing a cookbook ought rightly to raise an eyebrow (or two). It is perhaps best if you salt this review to taste. But when I was given the chance to review Share: Delicious and Surprising Recipes to Pass Around Your Table, it seemed like as good as a reason as any to invite some friends over for a meal (or two). Book reading, oatmeal-eating introverts take all the help they can get.
I鈥檇 like to think I was interested in Share for more than social reasons. Recipe books, like all cultural artifacts, tell a story. You can tell a lot about a culture by its approach to food. Baked into the ingredients and instructions are the traditions, habits, and values of a way of living. Microwave Meals for One evokes a different story than Dalesburg Baptist Church 125th Anniversary Cookbook. Even those internet recipes marked by Google鈥檚 favorite adjectives鈥攅asy, quick, one-pot鈥攐ften include a story (albeit with the convenient opportunity for the more pragmatic to jump to recipe). A story that typically details how this thirty-minute Pad Thai changed the neighborhood and has the kids begging for more. While these stories differ from the stories the handwritten notecards spilling out of my grandma鈥檚 binder suggest鈥攖he difference between oral tradition and written record鈥攖he basic impulse is the same: the combination of ingredients can make a dish, but it takes a story to make a meal.
The story Chris Santos鈥檚 Share evokes is not that surprising for those looking for culinary advice from a New York chef. Share, in Santos鈥檚 words, is about entertaining friends and family in your own home: 鈥淲hen you cook, you want people to walk away from the table saying, 鈥榃ow, I couldn鈥檛 have had a better meal anywhere else鈥.鈥 While readers familiar with Neil Postman鈥檚 trenchant critique of contemporary society, Amusing Ourselves to Death, might be suspicious that Santos has made the meal table merely another medium of show business, I will say before I let Postman weigh in (and I will allow him his two cents shortly) it is worth applauding Santos for recognizing food as something more than fuel. 鈥淓ating is only partly about sustaining your body. It is also about dining, sustaining and developing relationships among the people at the table and one of the most important ways that people come together.鈥 While food sacrificed to the idol of efficiency is a disputable matter, I鈥檓 inclined to think that mealtimes should not be. There are times of course to eat with your cloak tucked into your belt, but, as a general rule, table fellowship is a good place to waste time.
鈥淓ating is only partly about sustaining your body. It is also about dining, sustaining and developing relationships among the people at the table and one of the most important ways that people come together.鈥
The table, however, is not the only place that Santos鈥檚 recipes demand time. Santos鈥檚 eye toward 鈥渄ining鈥 asks a lot of time in the kitchen as well. While Santos helpfully points out what components can be prepared hours or even a day in advance, by his own admission, most of these meals are not for 鈥渟chool nights.鈥 While these prep times can be shortened with good help (when I had a team of two friends helping me, we managed to make Street Tacos and Chilaquiles Verdes in about 75 minutes), on my own, my first attempts on the recipes exceeded ninety minutes. If your favorite spice is hunger, this might be the book for you.
That being said, if you are not in a rush, Share is a book that is plain fun (for your cutting board and your taste buds!). Whereas the church cookbooks I鈥檓 used to are filled with variations on cream of ______ soup, Share is not a compilation of improvisations on a single theme. The recipes are delightfully diverse ranging from Wasabi Pea-Crusted Salmon with Soba Noodle and Beet Salad to Red Velvet 鈥淭winkies鈥 with Cr猫me Fra卯che Filling. Thankfully, correctly pronouncing the name of the dish does not hamper one鈥檚 enjoyment. When people ask what it is that you鈥檝e prepared, my advice is to answer with your mouth full. To supplement this wide variety of recipes, Santos also provides a useful guide to stocking your pantry in ways that opens up possibilities for creative and improvisational meal-making.
What I didn鈥檛 find useful鈥攁nd here鈥檚 where Postman gets his say鈥攊s 厂丑补谤别鈥s format as a cookbook. To be sure, the book is aesthetically pleasing. Accompanying the recipes are large full-page photographs with black backgrounds accenting the vibrant, not-cream-of-mushroom-grey colors of the dishes. The recipes themselves, however, are written in long paragraphs of small font. At more than one point, I found myself with dirty hands searching to find my place in step number four muttering to my roommate something about this book being made for looking rather than cooking. If you are familiar with recipe formats from places like HelloFresh that provide step-by-step pictures alongside short, simple instructions, Share was not as user-friendly. The cynical side of me (that鈥檚 the side of me that comes out when onions are beginning to blacken on the stove as I frantically search for where I was in the recipe) wondered whether Share was not a double entendre perfectly suited for the 21st century. Its name suggesting not only the means of dining but also the biases baked into the social media.
Alternatively, it may be that I am simply na茂ve about what cookbooks are for. If we are simply looking for recipes to satisfy hunger, the internet has more than enough. Maybe physical cookbooks in the internet age do not exist merely to fill hunger but also to create it. There鈥檚 that old saying about the recipe for building a ship that鈥檚 commonly attributed to Antoine de Saint-Exup茅ry: 鈥淚f you want to build a ship, don鈥檛 drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.鈥
The non-cynical side of me wants to believe that Share is something more than a recipe book for cooks catechized by Instagram. That perhaps its glistening, pristine photographs do something more. As I flipped through 厂丑补谤别鈥s pages, it was, after all, the photographs and not the ingredients nor instructions that made me say鈥擮h! I want to make that.
I suppose that鈥檚 a good reminder for oatmeal eating seminarians too. Although there is a pantry of common ingredients, there鈥檚 no strict recipe for becoming a saint. You know one when you see one, of course, and when you see a beautiful life, you can鈥檛 help but want to try and make one for yourself too. There too, as with anything, hunger remains the best spice.
This essay comes from the In All Things archives. It was originally published on June 15, 2023.
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